The “F” word is overrated anyways!
New readers might not be aware of the changes that have taken place with my health and body over the last 10 years but it’s something very important to me. I didn’t always have the best relationship with my body, especially as a teenager, but finding the body positivity movement when I was 19 changed all that. It really helped me to accept and love my body at a size 20 and later on when I became a size 8 due to a health related weight loss.
To be honest, learning to love myself at the size I am now took much longer than it did when I was plus-size. So much so that I really stopped talking about it on my blog because I struggled with my new image for a few years.
Thankfully with lots of practice and supportive friends & internet strangers, I’ve gotten through that rough patch and I feel like I’m in a better place now to encourage and remind others to love themselves no matter what size or shape they are. <3
In celebration of that, I put together this outfit and wanted to talk more about why I don’t say the “F” word (flattering) on my blog. Keep scrolling for my thoughts or just to shop similar pieces from my outfit!
👗 WHAT I’M WEARING 💄
Thrifted crop top and beret, $1 total (shop similar top, shop similar hat) | H&M jeans, $20 (shop exact jeans) | Poshmark/Forever 21 coat, $25 (shop similar coat) | Old Kmart booties, $15 (shop similar booties) | Gifted/thrifted purse, from Katie of Thrift Your Heart Out (shop similar purse) | Darling Distractions cat pin, c/o (shop exact pin) | L’Oreal lipstick in Saucy Mauve (shop exact lipstick)
🛍 SHOP MY LOOK 🛍
The “F” Word
Maybe it’s my laid back personality or my creative mind but I’ve never understood the “f” word – flattering. Why is trying to live up to some imaginary rules that someone deemed as “correct” such a big deal?! It’s so weird when you think about how we’re the only mammals that wear clothes yet there’s rules for how we’re supposed to do it.
The way I see it, trying to fit in and dress flattering will only stunt your creativity and is a slippery slope towards becoming a people pleaser. This is precisely why I never preach about body shapes or “flattering” silhouettes on my blog. Clothes are clothes and I believe they should be fun!
What I’m Wearing & What I’ll Never Wear
I’ve worn just about everything on my blog! From body con to over-sized and everything in between. Having been on both sides of the size spectrum, the only “rule” I’ve found worth following is that when you love what you wear, you feel good and that’s what makes you look good to others.
I felt pretty awesome in the outfit worn for this post! These are my new holy grail high waisted jeans from H&M, a recently thrifted crop top, and my long standing favorite leopard print coat.
The pants hug my curves, the coat has no shape, and the crop top exposes my belly. But you know what? I wore it and the world didn’t end.
You Are Some Body
I hope that my blog, my outfits, and my story of body positivity encourage you to feel comfortable in your own skin.
If you’re so willing, I would love for you to leave a comment and tell me one thing you love about your body. Finding just one thing each day is a small step towards complete acceptance and I’d be excited to cheer you on as you work your way to that place!